We all have memories, some wonderful and some painful. When we have a particularly painful memory, we can become held back trying to navigate life, trying to achieve goals, or trying to stay in relationships with others. We will use a variety of strategies to cope with our pain to include inflicting pain on others, disconnecting from others, or using food, drugs or alcohol to attempt to pacify our anxiety.
When we have a particularly painful, embarrassing, or confusing experience, our mind records as much information about that experience as possible. The mind does this in order to attempt to prevent the experience from happening again. If a similar event, person, smell, shape, color or so on, that was a part of the original event comes into your view or awareness, your system will set off alarms and bring up the exact same emotion you experienced during that past event, but it won’t bring up the event itself. This is your body’s way of attempting to protect or rescue you.
The problem, however, is you are now reacting to this new event as though the previous event is now happening which of course it isn’t and you therefore retreat, attack or freeze up. Others might try to help you by suggesting you need to just move on or move past that experience. What they don’t tell you is how to actually move on or move past that memory. As a result, you tend not to move on but rather you “re-live” that memory or memories even though you don’t want to.
In the Healing Painful Memories workshop, you will learn two techniques to remove the emotional content from any painful memory without removing the memory itself. Neither of these techniques involves talking about what happened. In fact, if you attempt to talk about what happened you will be politely asked to not share what happened, mostly because talking about it doesn’t seem to do a lot of good in the long term.
If you struggle with a painful confusing past and are ready to release those limiting memories and move on with your life then click on the button below to register for the next Healing Painful Memories workshop.
